Book Review : Perfect Love – 5.5 Ways To A Lasting Relationship by Shubha Vilas

Perfect Love – 5.5 Ways to A Lasting Relationship is a treasure trove of scriptural wisdom for the modern age. It contains six scintillating stories namely ‘The Wheel of Fortune’, ‘The Golden Letter’, ‘A Silent Voice’, ‘The Other Before Oneself’, ‘The Woman Who Chose’ and ‘A Condition About Conditions’ from the scriptures with deep philosophical truths for creating enduring relationships. The stories contains simple keys yet powerful for transforming relationships.

Forgiveness is key is the main theme of ‘The Wheel of Fortune’ which narrates the story of Nala and Damayanti. Tolerate first and forgive next is the first key to make a relationship last for a lifetime.

Rukmini expresses her love to Krishna in ‘The Golden Letter’ as she explores that expressing love is crucial in a relationship. Appreciative expressions of love are the second key to make a relationship last for a lifetime.

Trust is foundation of all relationships. In ‘A Silent Voice’, Shakuntala first starts learning to trust herself, her inner voice and then later on trusting Dushyanta, her lover and husband. Trust in others begins by trusting oneself first, inner voice second and life itself, third. Trust is the important key to make a relationship strong.

In ‘The Other Before Oneself’, the author narrates the love story of Udayana and Vasavadatta as well as Lohajanga and Rupinika who build their relationships based on quality time spent in each other’s company. Spending quality and quantity time is the fourth key to make a relationship last for a lifetime.

Savitri’s determination to stay with Satyavan is retold in the story ‘The Woman Who Chose’. The determination to stay together actually increases the overall levels of happiness and contentment in a human being. Savitri was resolute not to let go of the relationship even in the face of death itself.

As the name suggests ‘A Condition About Conditions’ is about the conditions that have positive or negative impact on the relationships. A positive condition is the last half-key to make a relationship last for a lifetime. The stories of Shantanu’s relationship with Ganga and Satyavati and Pururava’s love for Urvashi talk about how negative conditions complicate relationships from the beginning and strangulate them in the end. Whereas Draupadi’s marriage with the five Pandavas lasted a lifetime.

Quotations that I liked from this book are as follows:

1.      Just like birthmarks on your body reveal your identity, your values are birthmarks on the soul that reveal your character.

2.      Confusion and clarification are two sides of the same coin. When the side of confusion faces you, turn it around and seek clarification.

3.      Dependence is taking, independence is giving, and interdependence is an exchange programme.

4.      When you look down upon someone, they appear ugly. When you look up at someone, they appear beautiful. But when you look straight at someone, they appear the way they are.

5.      Exposure to a variety of people, thoughts and culture is like learning to appreciate all the colours in a set of paints.

6.      Words can paint images, which no brush can.

7.      Filthy roads are better than filthy minds; at least their filth is visible.

8.      Those who are troubling others are actually borrowing trouble for themselves.

Shubha Vilas is a TEDx speaker, lifestyle coach, storyteller and author. He has delivered more than 4000 lectures on application of scriptural wisdom in day-to-day life. Ramayana: The Game of Life is his bestselling series. He’s also the author of Open-Eyed Meditations and The Chronicles of Hanuman. Curious to know more about him, then visit his website – www.shubhavilas.com.

For all those who wish to improve their relationship with their partner it is must read book! :) 

Book Review : What Will People Think? By Rashi Dubey

So, I have one more book in my collection signed by author. This time it is What Will People Think? by Rashi Dubey.

On seeing the cover page of What Will People Think?, my first thought was that it must be a self help book. But when I opened it, I found that it is full of imagination as it is a novella. As the name suggested, the story line of this novella is about to overcome the fear of ‘what will people think’ and to follow one’s dreams ignoring the gossip of the society. As success, closes all mouths! Isn’t it?

The story revolved around a girl Riya who loved to paint but her parents did not understand her dreams and forced her to take an attractive career like medical side. Her parents were extremely supportive to her brother and showed gender inequality towards her. She tried her best to convince them but all in vain. She took a strong decision to follow her dreams. She rebelled. She left home.

After leaving home and hometown, she faced many problems. She found supportive friends who helped her to grow in career as well as emotionally. However, she terribly missed her family. One day, she met a widower who is a doctor by profession but had keen interest in art. Love bloomed between them and they got married. On knowing that her parents were in trouble, she rushed to help them. In the end, her husband surprised readers by taking a bold decision which overcome Riya’s parents fear ‘Log kya kahenge’ forever.

The story is simple without much twists and turns. The story is neat and clean which can be read and enjoyed with the family. It is gripping as I finished it in just three hours. The characters are well defined and plot is easy to comprehend.  

Some quotes from the book which I liked

1.      The main motto of  this family was to stand by each other at all times and be a single unit against the pitfalls of the society.

2.      Negative people will continue to make you feel small and less but these will be the people who will cheerfully encourage you when you continue growing in your life in a positive way. This is irony of life.

3.      It is strange how people who are not your family could at times understands you much better than your close family members. May be that’s the thing about having friends.

The author is a software engineer by profession but she loves to write. This is her second book. Her first book is The Heart Affair : A short story. She blogs at liferelationshipredefined.wordpress.com. She can be contacted at rashi.dubey811@gmail.com. Her Facebook page is http://www.facebook.com/iamrashidebey/.

Grab your copy now! :)

Lohagarh Fort, Bharatpur

As I had an hour until Banke Bihari Temple opened, I decided to take a round around Lohagarh Fort in Bharatpur. It was quite a long walk as it was a big fort.

Lohagarh meant made up of Iron Fort. Jat rulers of Bharatpur built it.

Maharaja Suraj Mal built numerous forts one of them was Lohagarh Fort. The fort was considered invincible as it was surrounded by a huge moat and was made up of thick walls.  

Inside Fort there was a museum but alas it was closed on that day.

Maharaja Suraj Mal statue was worth seeing.

Numerous stories of bravery of Jat kings were written over there on the stones.

The view from the top showed some age old havelies.

Patties of a difference!

Just outside Banke Bihari Temple in Bharatpur, there is a patties shop. Though many patties shop are mushrooming these days on the roadside in almost every city. But this shop has a different style of serving patties. They slice the hot potato patties in half and put the sav (thick bhujia) in it along with finely chopped onion. Then they pour spicy imali chutney and ketchup in it. And serve it on a paper plate for just Rs. 10/. This is the cheapest and tastiest snack I ever have!

If you visit Bharatpur, don’t forget to taste patties from this tiny roadside shop. You can even alter some of the ingredients as per your choice and taste!

Moringa Puri – Tasty as well as healthy

I love to experiments with food. Here is one of my successful experiments, which turn out to be tasty as well as healthy.

For making moringa puri we need moringa powdered made from dried moringa leaves. You can purchase it from the market or from me. :) Moringa is rich in Calcium and Iron. It helps in removing malnourishment in children and helps in relieving joint pain in elders.

Ingredients

Wheat flour – 1 cup

Suji / Semolina – ¼ cup

Ajwain / Carom – ¼ teaspoon

Moringa powder – ¼ teaspoon

Ghee – ½ teaspoon

Salt to taste

Oil/ Ghee for frying

Method

1.      Take wheat flour and semolina in a bowl and mix them well.

2.      Mix salt, ajwain and moringa powder in it.

3.      Pour warm ghee in it and rub it well.

4.      Knead the dough with warm water and left it for 15 minutes.

5.      Make small balls and roll them with a help of rolling pin.

6.      Deep fry them on medium fire.

7.      Serve them hot with channa or potato tomato veg.

In search of Miswak

Meswak, a medicinal tree is disappearing fast from Haryana because of industrialisation and its medicinal value. Its roots are used as local toothbrush or are used in industries for making toothpastes. Its twisted barks are the homes of many poisonous animals like gauhwera (poisonous lizard), snakes and goha, a huge lizard. Even biju (honey bedger) loves to live in them. Therefore, people in fear chopped this tree mercilessly. I want to plant this tree in my garden as most of the birds love to eat its berries. They are delicious and are available in attractive colours like pink, white, red and purple.

I searched various nurseries for this tree. And Alas! Most of them had never heard of such a tree though it is native tree of this region. Surprisingly I tried near about 100 nurseries both private as well as officially hold by government. I hunt for it not only in Haryana but also across the length and breadth of the country. I explored Google for it but all in vain. As this tree grows well by its seed dispersed by birds or by humans. There is no tree near my garden therefore, this method was not feasible.

When I told my mother about my problem that I was not able to find nursery of Meswak tree. She asked about its local name. I told her it is also known as Peel, Pelu or Jaal and its botanical name is Salvadora persica. She recalled that when we used to travel by rail about 30 years back from Hisar to Rewari then on Jatusana railway station that fruits used to be sold by local vendons in leaf donas. She suggested that there must be a forest of this tree near that railway station and you might find some trees there but preferably go there in monsoon season as baby plants will be easily visible.

Following her guidance, today I went to Jatusana and found some trees growing here and there. Baby trees were not much there. But found a few. I noticed some kikar trees, teent bushes and monsoon mushrooms. 

The scenic beauty was awesome. Gigantic rocks were standing in pride ready to tolerate the simmering heat of sun and waiting patiently to gently kiss the clouds. It was mesmerising to watch nature’s creation. Although rocks were cut in different shapes and sizes even then they were holding oneness and unity. It was peaceful and calm view.

While returning home, I saw many purple moorhens feeding in a paddy field. A day spent well! A fruitful day!! :)  

Drink water

“Please have some water.” A bureaucrat asked me.

“No, thanks.” I replied.

“In hot summers like this, we should drink more water as we perspire a lot.” He gave a philosophical dose to me. And signalled me to drink some water.

“No, thanks.” I repeated.

Even on his repeated requests when I didn’t have water then he said, “Ma’am, do you have taste buds like Gurgaonites....................? That you drink only beer and nothing else.”

I laughed aloud.