“Your sense of humour is superb.” I appreciated Mr. ‘R’ when he cracked a self created joke. A smile appeared on his face on hearing his appreciation. I, who have some knowledge of psychology said, “In general, the persons who are witty have a very painful and sorrowful life and they use their sense of humour as an escape from the darkness of their lives. I hope this is not true in your case.”
He became silent and didn’t respond. He sunk into deep thoughts.
What did silence mean; I correctly interpreted about his life or I made such an irrelevant statement that he preferred to ignore me?
Friday, June 11, 2010
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No way of telling which one's right! May be you made Mr.R just as unsure! :))ReplyDelete
Being an introvert (not a shy person mind you, just someone who recharges only when left alone), I can be the one who cracks the most jokes around people closest to me.
And from what I understand, it is not always a defense mechanism. But on an courageous/ honest admission, humor, especially getting it right can be so very energy draining that I've noted sadness to be an after-effect at times!! :p.
Well, daaark-ness in life did you say? Hope not!
You made someone's smile disappear from His face. Is that correct or wrong?ReplyDelete
I am sorry if I made a smile disappear from your face.
Hmm well why did you not ask him ... :)ReplyDelete
Silence could mean agreement too. If he got serious after hearing your comment he probably does have some problems, but it does not always have to be grievous. :-) If he really was a happy-go-lucky guy you would've immediately heard a response such as "Nothing like that. I am always like this." :-DReplyDelete
I am not good at cutting jokes, but my husband is! He makes everyone laugh loudly in any gatherings. He is like this since I got married to him. He had been a happy person, as far as I know.ReplyDelete
'R' might have gone back in memory lane to analyze himself, but I don't think that he might have a painful past. Introverts cut jokes on others' cost!
I don't know Mr. R but I like your sense of humour.. and indeed your IQ.. You have this extraordinary way of involving people making them speak and then choosing to remain silent.. It's your take on trivialities of life that pull me to your blog to see what your beautiful mind has now asked.. now falling in trap to answer your question.. many years ago I read.. Heart has to cut itself bit by bit to make space for happiness..from where stem the smile and joy.. and I have always believed that.. lets continue to practice happiness Shubham.. would love you to visit my space.. thanks for being a wonderful discerning mind..ReplyDelete
I think you touched a raw nerve there!ReplyDelete
His silence could be profound thoughts!ReplyDelete
I would imagine you have probably hit the nail on the head, although not everyone has some deep dark past. thought provoking as always. take care.ReplyDelete
Either way !!ReplyDelete
We will onky be hazarding guesses.The only person who can throw light on his silence is 'R' and he has chosen to remain silent!!ReplyDelete
instead of assuming, why dont u just ask him?ReplyDelete
why does all your posts end in a question? Some of them just for the sake of a question, expecially that one about the bird if its dead or not?...just curious.ReplyDelete
Poor guy has the right to remain silent, leave him alone!ReplyDelete
Actually I too joke all the time (well, as much as I can considering I am raising a typical teen)and I do not have any dark or tragic past. So I am thinking, umm, may be he was confused and did not know what to say?
Is it justified to make someone who is smiling and sharing his happiness with others tell somethng like this so bluntly? It is something like a doctor telling his patient, " You are going to die, so why waste money on medicines."
Silence, the other form of acceptance. Knowing Psychology, you could have communicated in other ways, so that Mr. 'R' keep enjoying your appreciation (-:ReplyDelete
"In general, the persons who are witty have a very painful and sorrowful life and they use their sense of humour as an escape from the darkness of their lives."ReplyDelete
i agree... perfect..but at least we make people smile..thats enough
Witty people have a sorrowful life?...ReplyDelete
I'm gonna remember that for the rest of my life...
Nice story btw...
Silence speaks volumes, but it's not always easy to interpret - I've seen both happy and unhappy jokesters...ReplyDelete
Silence is golden. It says lot of things, which can be interrupted the way each one want it.ReplyDelete
Its not always like that..may be sometimes yes!ReplyDelete
i prefer the former ,you correctly predicted it :)ReplyDelete
In your effort to bring a smile to Mr.R's face, I guess you touched a raw nerve there, reminding him of a certain unfortunate incident.ReplyDelete
On the other hand,you were being witty back there too. Maybe he smiled at the irony of you pointing that out, yet directing it at him!
@ everyone : Thanks! :)ReplyDelete
agreed with NitishaReplyDelete
@ Indian : Thanks a lot! :)ReplyDelete